Different people have very different lives, so I’m interested to hear the range of replies.
Do you only get sexual in a monogamous relationship? Do you use ‘hookup apps’ or specialized apps? Do you meet people at events? Casual events, special-interest clubs, hobby clubs? Are you involved in a fetish community? Do your friendships become sexual? Do you party at dance clubs? Do you pay at a brothel? Do you get approached unexpectedly in public? Do you look for partners intentionally or do you meet partners incidentally?
SLS?
SwingLifeStyle. Literally just SLS.com to get there. I am sure it depends where you are, but here it was pretty active.