I simply cannot do a quickie with my partner bent over. This position would come in so handy in the shower. But I just can’t do it.
I am average everything, weight, height, cock size. My partner is just a few inches shorter than me and I can never get the right angle into her vagina in this position. She has tried various angles of bending over and I still can’t get comfortable. The few times I have gotten in I feel like I am hitting some kind of ridge in her when thrusting forward.
Along these same anatomy lines I have found 3 basic types of female anatomy in reference to doggy style. The first is thin, probably too thin. Her ass is very thin and it feels like you are hitting a wooden board when thrusting into her.
The second is probably too chunky. Her ass is so thick that to achieve significant penetration you need to manually hold her ass cheeks apart while fucking her. Without those ass cheeks spread you just can’t reach any significant depth.
The best is the perfect ass. Not too thin and not too fat. Without cheek spreading you get good penetration. You feel like you are bouncing off a soft pillow. Just watching this type of ass bounce is a turn on. And the finish is grabbing hip handles that are soft and just the right size.
My wife and I are overweight folks. I have quite the gut, and she has a rather large booty. My gut on her trunk prevents any doggy style action. And it gets worse when she wants to be on top, my claustrophobia kicks in and I panic so bad I lose the erection.
Not that we can’t do it. But missionary requires a pillow under her else the angle doesn’t work very well.
We’re about the same height. She’s plus size, and I’m slim-ish. There are no positions that we straight up can’t do, but there are limitations. Our similar height actually makes sex standing up pretty easy.
For PIV sex, I need to be aware of my angle so I don’t ding her cervix. She also needs to be very turned on and lubed up before I can go in due to my girth. So no quickies unless she’s really horny already (which is rare due to life stress).
We haven’t done anal because of a very shit experience with her ex.
Receiving oral is good, but there’s always the danger of teeth. There’s no issue of my giving her oral.
For PIV sex, I need to be aware of my angle so I don’t ding her cervix. She also needs to be very turned on and lubed up before I can go in due to my girth. So no quickies unless she’s really horny already (which is rare due to life stress).
I hear you man, same boat. I’m looking into CBD oils/vapes to help her relax (alas, in a country where pot is illegal).
Oils make sense, but I personally don’t trust vapes. If you find something that works, you should share.
We are the same height and can do everything, but standing and bent over I’m a little too tall (or he’s a little too short) for it to be perfect fit. He’s hung a little bigger than average not huge, I’m small/medium in everything but height, more bottom than top.
If you are trying to do standing in the shower, she may just not feel safe bending over enough. Does it work if she wears heels and bends over the bed?
ETA: I forgot oral - my mouth is so small the orthodontist had to pull teeth out to make the others fit, and husband is hung thick. It doesn’t matter how careful I am, the back teeth are treacherously close together, my bite not as wide as his cock. So lots of hands involved when giving oral.
I have not considered having her wear high heels. Might try that