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Cake day: September 24th, 2023

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  • I posted a comment on YouTube exactly once in my life (providing the lyrics to what the person sang), and plan to never do it again. I usually scroll through others’ while watching.

    I cannot possibly be the only person who does this, especially since some peoples’ comments garner a bunch of thumbs ups and actually coherent replies in addition to the usual trash you see on YouTube (spam or totally out-of-pocket insults).


  • One vault keeps my list of games to play, things to read, etc. for later. I have it set up a particular way for quick and easy entry with the Meta Bind plugin, and DataView for easy listing of everything (each piece of media to consume is a separate note with tags according to things like genre, subject matter, etc. and DataView sorts on those). This gets a whole vault to itself because of how every piece of media is a separate note: not much information in one one; when I usually have one note with a lot of stuff in it. This would absolutely clog any other vault. It also gets a whole vault to itself because I have no need for DataView or Meta Bind at the moment in my other vaults. My other vaults are plugin-free.

    I also have a vault for storing notes on my personal creative projects, whether it be a long-abandoned attempt at planning a TTRPG campaign or a video game.

    One for academic notes. I also have a separate math vault that did not end up getting very far, intended to help me review a bunch of math I already learned (and maybe to one day share to help teach others), maybe I’ll pick it up again.

    Finally, I have a sort of catch-all vault for everything else in my life I might want in Obsidian. This is my most frequently used. It’s where my recipes live, where information about myself I should probably know about myself but often forget lives (like the exact day I moved into a different house), where I keep track of knitting patterns and my progress on them…

    This is not how you are “supposed” to do it, I always see advice to keep everything in one vault, but this is what works for me.

    Thanks for posting this question!











  • Disclaimer: have not actually read Lolita.

    From what I know of it, if you just take it at face value it appears to be approving of pedophilia, because the narrator defends his pedophilia, but the perspective the author wants you to come away with is “wow, this protagonist defending his pedophilia is pretty disgusting.”

    I definitely don’t think it should be banned, but a lot of people banned it thinking it was pro-pedophilia when that was the opposite of its point.

    I am guessing you probably do not want a similar situation, where a fic taking a dump on bigotry (but not when read at purely face value, or just the narrators’ thoughts) gets removed on the grounds of positively portraying it. So that is one minefield I’d be careful of.




  • I know about the app where women message first. I also know men set their gender on the app to be a woman, so they can message first, and proceed to spam with dick pictures. So I still won’t use it.

    I am sorry about the women who want but won’t give in return.

    If it’s worth anything to you, I’ve been the initiator in almost every romantic relationship I’ve been in. I’m a woman. Unfortunately I’m also used to being the initiator in all my relationships, including friendships, so I also want a guy to initiate with me, like the women you are complaining about… but that doesn’t stop me from making the first move anyways. Saying this not for “pick me” stuff (please don’t, nothing against you personally but I’m still a little old school in wanting to meet someone in real life first, not online) but to give hope that not all women are going to do all the things you are complaining about.

    I also won’t be found on dating apps because I’m convinced that’s a quick road to getting hit with misogyny, racism (I’m nonwhite in the United States of America), and idiot bigots trying to make me change my orientation (asexual, only romantically interested in men). I’ve never experienced it before, and I do not want to open the door to it. I have seen so many online complaints about how nasty people game systems meant to protect us (like in the example I gave about the app that makes women message first). So for anyone looking to make a Fediverse dating app, you might want to look into both how to prevent/punish that type of interaction, and how people get around it. I’m not actively looking for love but if I ever do I’m not going to be doing it online.


  • I used to make accounts on OKCupid as a 12 year old, pretending to be 43, just so I could do the matching system—I used it as a personality quiz. Still enjoy that kind of thing today. Not sure how many fake users akin to myself you would get, making a profile that harasses nobody but also is totally useless and one more thing for people looking for love to have to scroll by, for a database to store information on.

    Not sure how I found out about that matching system as a 12 year old not looking for love online. I think it happened at least in part because whenever I would search the internet for personality quizzes, OKCupid often had some quiz that matched what I wanted.

    One way to catch me out would have been that I never interacted with anyone. No viewing profiles besides my own, no messages sent.