I had an appointment with my new doctor today, and unfortunately it seems it is related to my mood stabilizers or a combo of psych meds and HRT. We can’t say that it is 100% the cause, but he thinks that is what it is.

He suggested that we could change the psych meds, but I am quite hesitant to do so. It took a very long time to find something that helps, and I’d rather not start that process over.

He offered viagra or the like to make it so I can get properly hard again, but I don’t have sensation down there like I used to. I’ll go a month without using my vibrator, abstaining from masturbation completely, but there is no effect. I don’t see the point.

It wasn’t the answer I was looking for. I didn’t get my hopes up prior to the visit, so I was not really disappointed.

Such is life I suppose.

Interesting. I’m really surprised how much stuff I had not thought of or considered. I’m glad I posted this question!

I am! I have bipolar 2, so I don’t know if I can reduce my meds. We just found something that seems to be helping me too.

Oh shoot, yes I am. I have bipolar 2, so I can’t really stop taking my meds.

I tried that for a while, and I could not even get to arousal.

Yeah they have. I see what you mean about materials and temps.

I do like my Magic Wand. Nothing else is strong enough.

I’ve found that I like coconut oil for lubricant. I’ve tried different dildos, even Tenga Eggs. I’ve done it in cars, hotels, and houses. I’ve only ever been with one person at a time as the opportunity for more has never arisen. Not sure what you mean by temps and materials?

I do have kinks, and do derive pleasure from them, but they aren’t really ideal to do often (they leave visual marks). Even though I get pleasure from the kinks, it doesn’t lead to anything. It’s more of a controlling pain sort of thing I suppose.

I’m completely unable to orgasm with a partner, only by myself using porn and a vibrator. Though I suppose I don’t actually need porn.

That’s really interesting, about the cream. I definitely feel frustrated whenever I am turned on, since I know that there is nowhere to go with it. I vaguely remember a couple of sexual dreams, but they involved a woman (which is weird because I date and have sex with men exclusively). I’ve tried being with women in the past, but it is absolutely not my thing.

I hope my doctor will be able to help me.

Gosh I hope I don’t have diabetes… My diet is kinda bad.

Thank you for the reply! I have not had any surgeries, but am hopeful this doctor’s appointment will help. Though I am prepared to learn that nothing can be done.

I haven’t, could that be related?

I’m not sure why I had not thought of that. I happen to have a visit scheduled for next Friday. I’ll mention it!

It’s almost as though I have no feeling down there. Nothing really stimulates me enough for it to get hard, not enough to get hard. I use my hitachi magic wand and watch porn, and it feels like I get 50% there, but then it just kind of fizzles out.

I have my first doctors appointment in several years coming up in a week, I’ll mention it then. I had not thought of that 😅

Thanks