When I was a teen, I thought they were hot and they were my peers. As I’ve gotten older, youth look weirder and less attractive to me.

I think people are attracted to health, so someone who’s young and alive will other factors being equal be hotter than someone who’s cracked and sickly. Young people tend to be healthier.

That seems fine to me.

Match should be broken up. But apparently some people learned nothing from history and some people don’t care as long as they make money

Many things. I mean, you could hack a lot of stuff into Excel but generally

SQL has foreign keys and integrity checks. You can make it so like if you delete a user it automatically cascades to delete other rows like their addresses.

You can prevent someone from entering the wrong type of data in particular columns. This one’s an integer and that one’s text.

It’s designed to work on larger scales. Excel stops at 1 million rows per spreadsheet, unless my search just gave me AI slop.

You can do queries, for selecting as well as updating and deleting. You can join tables.

It’s much easier for other applications (such as a website) to talk to a SQL database

You can do transactions.

There’s a lot. That’s just off the top of my head.

I don’t accept the premise that it’s “humiliating” for a partner to leave.

I don’t accept the premise that them leaving is predicated on sexual performance.

I don’t accept that f+f sex is inferior to m+f

I’m not even going to go on. Your world view is rigid and not healthy. Maybe spend some time with other people, if they’ll have you. Get out of whatever manosphere hole you’ve fallen into.

We could do a lot for climate change, world hunger, homelessness, disease prevention and eradication, and so on with that much money.

All of these people are doing mass murder via opportunity cost, and I hope they pay for it.

Some of this behavior seems self destructive.

I knew a woman who would be like “I have too many matches it’s overwhelming”. I’d be like “ok well stop swiping and clear out what you have.” She’d be like “no, swiping is fun.” Well, ok, but you’re not making progress towards your stated goal, and you’re wasting the other people’s time.

I just don’t think spending 2 weeks texting without meeting is going to give useful, accurate, information. The chemistry you’re measuring there isn’t what you’ll have in real life.

A couple dinners before you find out they’re not what you thought? The same is achieved with just talking for a couple weeks

Strong disagreement here. The same is not achieved by texting and fundamentally cannot be achieved. There is too much stuff in body language, voice, and such that you’re just not going to reveal over text. Plus other stuff like seeing how they interact with other people. Are they rude to the bartender? Do they road rage? There are whole worlds of information you can’t get without spending time with someone in person.

We have different takes about “pen pals”. I don’t want to message someone for weeks before meeting up. I do like

• initial tailored message (eg: “Your profile says you love Kelly Link! Did you read her new novel? I really enjoyed it”)
• if they respond badly, exit (eg: “no”)
• one or two responses (eg: if they say “No! I’ve only read her short stories! Was it good?” then we can have a brief conversation about it)
• clear any dealbreakers (eg: if i had a kid, i’d ask something like “Just wanted to make sure you saw the thing on my blurb about my kid. Are you cool with dating a single parent?”)
• If that all goes well, ask something like “Do you want to have a date and see if we get along in person?”

That’s it. All done. Meeting up for a drink is low cost and low risk, but very information dense. I can get a better feel for if I want to invest in them after an hour in person than I can with a week of texting.

This is written from the perspective of a man who doesn’t date men. I can’t speak authoritatively about other experiences, but second hand none of my women friends have enjoyed prolonged texting without meeting.

Maybe sometimes. Most modern apps you can only message if you’ve both signaled interest, so if you’re getting messages from people you’re not attracted to I’d ask why you swiped on them in the first place.

Secondly, if you get a message and aren’t interested, it’s better to just unmatch. If you don’t have time to respond fully now, then just don’t say anything. If you send a half-ass response, you look kind of bad and the other person might bail. Who wants to talk to someone who, based on all available evidence in this scenario, can’t hold a conversation? The main thing on these app is trying to make yourself look good. Making yourself look like someone who can’t compose a sentence isn’t doing yourself any favors.

Match group 100% should be broken up.

I think a lot of people, of all genders, are surprisingly bad at the skills needed to use a dating app successfully. People dead end conversations and then are like “why aren’t I having fun conversations?”

Like, a profile says “I love SomeBand”. You write “hey! SomeBand is my favorite. Did you see their new music video? I don’t know how they got those cats to act!” And then respond with “no”, end of message. I’m just like my friend, that is not how you use this tool. What do you think is going to happen next?

But yeah, women refusing to take initiative probably isn’t helping. But the roots of that are pretty deep in our sexist society, and I don’t see that changing any time soon.

I think the dating app model that’s currently popular kind of can’t work well for users. They’re all set up so they benefit from users paying a subscription for a long time, but users want to find a match and get out. Those are contradictory.

I think a match making model would be better. Pay a single fee and they try to set you up with someone. They already got your money so their incentive would be to set you up happily so they don’t have to work on you anymore. But users don’t want to pay for anything, so we’ll continue having garbage and garbage incentives.

I think feeld recently was revealed to have all of their information and apis public. Like anyone could find any message and photos, and do CRUD operations on them.

https://fortbridge.co.uk/research/feeld-dating-app-nudes-data-publicly-available/

Also the app kind of sucks, at least as a free user. It does the same bullshit as all the others where it doesn’t actually connect you with people. And some classes of users (eg: women) get bombarded with low quality content while others get nothing.

Hinge also kind of sucks for the same capitalism reasons, but it’s better than the others I tried.

Several times I’ve set the max warnings to whatever the current warning count is, and then decreased that over time.

My old computer took to Mint without much of a problem. My newer one… many things didn’t work. The mint discord was very helpful though!

It’s a shame more manufacturers don’t sell machines that are already set up with Linux, so you don’t have to worry about like “oh WiFi doesn’t work for some esoteric reason?” as much

I turn it off every night when I’m done. It boots quickly and I mostly just use it for the web browser and steam.

My work computer (Mac) I put to sleep because I don’t always want to open all the terminals and IDE and such every time.

At my job, me and another guy were given stuff to work on. But unknown to product, there’s a lot of shared code there.

In my imagination, it should be someone’s job to coordinate this. Instead, I finished a chunk of mine, he finished a chunk of his, and then there was confusion. Maybe that’s just a technical team lead’s job.

I actually do have a wizard robe and hat (they were separate gifts from people who know me well) but somehow I’ve never worn the hat during sex.

Conservatism is generally a worthless ideology that makes the world worse, so I don’t feel a desire to spend more time with it. We don’t need to debate “what if women don’t have rights”, “what if gay stuff is illegal?”, “what if you had to pay for health care so if you were poor you’d just die?” or whatever.

Nvidia 4070 super.

I don’t remember the other details off the top of my head. Discord had me run sudo apt install linux-image-oem-24.04b and that fixed the Ethernet. They didn’t really explain details, though. Maybe there were more things to do, but I didn’t get more responses so I was on my own.