You mention frigate specifically. Were you running this on the system when the drive failed, or is this a future endeavour?
I bring this up because I also use frigate, and for some time I was running with a misconfigured docker compose that drove my SSD wearout to 40% in a matter of months.
Make sure that the tmpfs is configured per the frigate documentation and example config. If misconfigured like mine was, all of that IO is on disk. I believe the ramdisk is used for temp storage of camera streams, until an event occurs and the corresponding clip is committed to disk.
Good luck!
Just on point A. You can configure the maximum number of conflicts allowed for each folder.
I was running into conflicts with obsidian notes. Reduced the max conflicts on those folder to zero, problem gone.
It’s in the folder specific advanced settings.